Ancient Sigma Nu lore : half you age plus seven, half her age plus seven. You're 24, so that makes your range 19 to 34.

There are of course mitigating circumstances. However, these do in no way reduce the right of your friends to give you crap about it.

Heed this warning: every piece of the ancient lore is composed of both wisdom and folly intertwined. Be careful upon which twine you depend.

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Oh, and I'm hereby giving official notice of the Standard Fortnight Clause. If you have not made your move within two weeks, I reserve the right to harass you (hourly, at my discretion) to no end, (in love, of course) until such action is taken. (Just kidding... maybe... there is much wisdom and folly in the SFC.)

;-)

heh. karl sent this one to me. iiiinteresting question. :)

WELL... from the girl's perspective.. it's all about maturity and need. if a girl's in need of someone to make her feel young and free, then she'll go for someone who's "less mature"... typically younger than her. if a girl's fed up with her stupid immature guy friends, she'll go for someone older (and hopefully more mature). haha.. in these cases, age is not a real determinant. :)

but i haveta say.. going for a 19 or 34 year old sounds kinda sketchy, no?

keep it tight, 22-25.

sometimes you have to break the rules to free your heart

(btw, I go with the standard rule that the standards for anyone you date equals the amount of crap you're willing to take from your friends about it, there's real wisdom to not do it if you feel your friends are being too hard on you)

That formula is actually more of a joke than anything else. It was told to me kind of as a dirty joke (except not actually dirty) by one of the sketchiest "old fogies".

I was very sketched out that an xgf dated at 34 or 35-year-old at age 19, but I think I would have been just barely sketched out by a 19-year-old male friend dating a 35-year-old woman. If the girl is too young for the guy, you tend to think the girl is emotionally needy and being used. I don't get the same feeling if the guy is the one that's too young. If the guy is too young, you just kinda wonder if he's gold digging or has strange tastes or something. It's just counter to the way the advantage-taking usually goes, so it looks a lot less sketchy.

I realized I know a lot of 19-year-old Freshmen and a lot of 19-year old Juniors. There's a huge difference. The old Sigma Nu RA was less mature than ANY of the Freshmen in the house, and he was 26. There's huge variablility.

In the end, sketchy is as sketchy does. All the advice your friends can give you can only help you predict how the relationship is going to function. If it ends up functioning healthily, then your friends will see that (and still give you crap, though I have the kind of friends that continuously give me crap as a sign of love).

I guess my final answer is:
All realtionships are complex and risky endevors. Each has it's own unique potential and unique potential pifalls. Age difference is only oen of many obstacles, not necessarily any larger or smaller than any other. Each relationship must be earnstly prayed about before embarking.

Do any of the candidates have online pics?

david, david, david. love has no rules. and you may be wondering: is this just a random comment from a love-stricken fool? no, no. if love had rules this world would be in a sorry state. i can't even imagine a world with constrained love. . .our mind doesn't have that capability. so, i guess what i'm trying to say in reponse to your question, in simplest terms: age doesn't matter